New Year means to many, a chance for a new beginning. Sounds good on paper. The reality is that real change means real commitment and real effort. We often start off with good intentions, but somewhere along the way, we get lost. It happens to all of us at some point. Established routines are difficult to change, especially when we remain rooted in the other routines in our lives. We are all in them. Work, home, responsibilities, commitments...
Maybe we resolved to be more patient with those around us but then find ourselves in a hurry and the driver in front of you is travelling too slow. Or perhaps we resolved to lose weight and we find ourselves at an all you can eat buffet and everything looks so delicious. Sigh, change wasn't supposed to be this hard.
Change can be very difficult to maintain over the long term, but the reason you resolved to try in the first place was because something was out of balance in your life. An old habit or routine was becoming troublesome for some reason. It was making our life harder instead of better and we reached a moment in our life when we felt like it was time to really do something about it.
Don't give up! No one promised that change would be instant, easy, or even graceful. One doesn't learn how to ride a bike for the first time, without feeling a little unsteady or without falling. There is a process that everyone must go through because that is how it happens. Don't ruin your chances of succeeding by giving up. Surround yourself with people who support you, and talk about it. Own it when you indulge yourself. Name it for what it is - a choice that you made in this moment that you have the power to change at any other moment and the million moments yet to come. And, also talk about why you want to make better choices next time. Talk about how you will support yourself and be kinder to yourself. Every single unhealthy or unhelpful routine we developed in our lives went through this very same process for us to have gotten good at it.
Be kind to yourself, keep talking, and keep trying. Talking about it is how you hold yourself accountable, motivate yourself, and to keep giving yourself permission to make it all possible.
To new beginnings :)
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